Either you are freaking out about your wedding day right now and need immediate assistance or you are planning ahead for those inevitable last-minute jitters. Regardless, the following advice will help calm wedding day nerves (whether you are the bride, groom, or someone who loves them).
Make a Plan & Delegate
Sit down and create a wedding day timeline. Be as organized and neurotic as you like. Then, pass that list on to someone else in the bridal party - especially if you are the bride or groom. You should enjoy the wedding day, and you don’t need to be stressing about every little detail. Be sure to appoint someone you trust to deal with any emergencies that come up on wedding day and have them handle things without telling you about them unless absolutely necessary. Make sure everyone else in the wedding party knows that emergencies and questions should be directed to this person rather than to you.
Double Check The Night Before
Contact all of your vendors the day or night before your wedding to make sure that things are in place. Get confirmation from them, and then give them your appointed emergency-handler’s contact information in case anything changes. If something does go wrong with your vendors, and you do find out about it, try not to freak out too much. Food, cakes, wedding music, decorations, table cloths - it’s all just stuff. Your guests are there to celebrate your love. Enjoy the party and try not to sweat the small stuff.
Stay Hydrated & Eat
It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle, but it’s important to stay hydrated and eat throughout the day. Pack snacks ahead of time for the wedding party (or appoint someone else to do so), and set reminders on your phone (or someone else’s) to remind you to drink and eat a little bit. Many brides and grooms find themselves at the wedding reception unable to enjoy it because they are dehydrated from the events of the day (and sometimes the week leading up to it).
Use Your Calming Techniques
It’s inevitable. You are going to have some nerves - whether it’s about the idea of truly committing or your fear that the in-laws won’t get along with your cousin Kathy. First of all, don’t freak out if you have doubts or fears last-minute. These are normal and crop up for most people on their wedding day. Just remember the memories you’ve made together and go through your vows to remind yourself how excited you are. Then, use whatever calming techniques you usually use to calm down. Relaxing music, guided relaxation, venting to a friend, sitting alone and meditating, or writing it all out on paper can be helpful.
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